Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
This video is very touching, inspiring and emotional. I hope you take the time to watch it. On this adoption journey I have come to have a much different appreciation for those who have adopted, have been adopted, or given up a child to adoption. I realize that adoption isn't in the cards for everyone, but everyone can have an impact on a child's life, even if it is just reading them a story or giving the a hug.
"As one person I cannot change the world, but I can change the world of one person."
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Tomorrow marks our 5 month mark of on the waiting list! Knowing that this family is only slightly ahead of us and got their referral is encouraging to us. I even wore my Ethiopia necklace today for good luck!
In the meantime, I have slowly been collecting clothes for Hayley and Jack. We have been VERY fortunate to have friends and family who have given us a ton a stuff for them. I have also been hitting up the garage sales too. I also discovered Saks 5th Ave has some great deals (thanks to Melis - my sisterinlaw)! Here are some of my favorite finds!
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
We also received Malaria pills that we take prior to being exposed to Malaria risk areas. We also chose to take the Typhoid pills rather than another shot. We will take those soon as the side affects from these immunizations ware off.
We did NOT get the Yellow Fever immunization today. This shot is not required, but reccomended if you are traveling to remote areas in Ethiopia, which we plan to. Here was our conversation with the Dr. today on if we needed the shot.
Me -"Is there any reason we should consider not getting the shot"
Dr - "Yeah, it is the nastiest of nasty of all immunizations out there."
Me - "What do you mean?"
Dr - "Most people get sickness and a fever for a few days. There is also a 1 in 300,000 chance you could die."
Me - "I think I really need to decide if I want to get this one"
Dr - "It is okay if you are a chicken. What, you don't want die?"
Then he made balking chicken noises at me with the arm motion and everything. Who does that?
Friday, July 16, 2010
Thursday, July 15, 2010
When I think about our children being born it brings me great joy to know that our children are one step closer to being with us. However, at the same time it brings me great sadness. I am sad because as I am about to become a mother at the loss of another mother. A mother that had to give their child up out of circumstance and not out of choice. Some give their children up because they are so poor they cannot survive with another child, they are sick, or worse, they die during childbirth. These families use adoption as a last resort and as a means of survival for everyone involved. This decision forces them into what we would think of as unthinkable. They abandon their children. These children are left to be found in public places such as a bus station or a dump. Dumping grounds are actually very public gathering spots in Ethiopia. 80%+ of children that are in Toukoul, where we are adopting, is because they were abandoned.
So last night when I asked Sam if he thought our babies were born yet, I also thought what they were doing right now. I thought they are just fighting to survive. They could be alone, scared, hungry, who knows. I also thought of their mother and how she must feel. I read this post tonight about a birth-mother and really just resonated with me.
People often say to Sam and I that our kids will be so lucky. They will be lucky because I think we will be great parents and I take it as a compliment when people tell us this. I also want people to think and to pray for their birth-mom. Our happiness is born out of someone else’s sadness. And that part makes me sad.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
It is unlikely, more like impossible that we will have a referral and court date before they close on Aug. 9th. This means that the earliest we would travel would be in October. My hope is that we get our referral soon so we can be put on the list to go to Court right after they re-open. Keep your fingers crossed that our referral will come in the next month or so!
Next week will mark our 5 month mark. Isn't that nuts! We have been waiting almost 5 months! Again, the average to a referral is 4-6 months. So everyday is starting to get more real for us. We will find out that we have a referral when our agency calls us. They will not call us unless they are calling with BIG news. So everyday I start to get a little more attached to my phone. I am starting to jump a little when it rings or my heart will skip a beat. I am soooo excited and ready to become parents, but at the same time I am terrified. I am terrified that I won't feel an immediate attachment. It is such a strange feeling knowing in the next few months I will be looking at my son and daughter over an emailed photo. Strange, so strange. I think I used to be in la la land dreaming of how cute, great and perfect they will be. Now that each day is getting closer reality is starting to kick in. These kids could be far from perfect and I really have no control over this situation, none! I just keep try to remind myself that things probably won't be as I have imagined it to be, and nothing in this life is perfect, but everything will work out in the end and I will love these children and their imperfections.